Written by Alex Gervash, commercial pilot (31 years) and fear of flying specialist (18 years, 16,000+ cases treated)
Why the need to always be able to save yourself comes from believing in other people's inability to protect you—usually learned in early childhood.
First, this is simply not true. Statistically, the total death rate in air accidents is about 18%, in incidents with complete decommission of the aircraft it is about 30%.
But the problem has deeper roots. Think about it—why is it so important for you to have a possibility to save yourself?
A healthy mind does not analyze the possibility of surviving. It analyzes the probability of a negative event. The hyper-need to "survive" comes from a lack of trust in life. If the world is dangerous, you need to think constantly about how to escape and survive in it.
The need to always be able to save yourself also comes from believing in other people's inability to protect you and take care of you. We usually get such a mindset in early childhood.
In Short
Why the need to always be able to save yourself comes from believing in other people's inability to protect you—usually learned in early childhood.
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